Christian churchs teach that you are inherently bad, that it is not entirely your fault and that Christ has already saved you and after He gets around to telling you (if He hasnt already) that you forgiven and are His, you will do nonspecific good things he directs because you will naturally want to do them. President Hinckley directly addresses mothers in this talk, commending them for the wonderful thing they have done by becoming mothers, but offering insights on their greatest challenge: to be able to answer the question How well have my children done? with happiness. I think we should dispense with handing out things and tell everyone weve made a donation to a local womens shelter or program for mothers in need. My bishop knows where its at, and we always get Dove bars, Milk for those of unrefined taste and Dark for the rest of us. I was honored to have known her, and to have been able to claim her as my own. However, I am concerned about the implications of a people where the female population dislikes the concept of motherhood or at least dislikes it enough that they do not want to celebrate Mother's Day. I actually feel it is not so dissimilar on fathers day, particularly since the disparity between them can demean men. Ere the sun goes down: But alas, Mother's Day 11 years ago will forever be known as the day I landed face down on the floor of the chapel, on top of my 3-year-old, in the middle of sacrament meeting, with my skirt flung over my head. I Know I would like Mothers Day more if they changed the official hymn of the day from Love at Home to this one (to be sung from the perspective of the mother): 1. Thanks. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. Enter your email address to follow BCC and receive new posts by email. Identifying ideals is somehow so treacherous for the psyches of women that that must never be mentioned? She was a wonderful example for motherhood, womanhood, and peoplehood. Sorry for the sacrilege I think all women want massages but not sure the church is the right place for it. I get really tired of hearing the stripling warrior passages on Mother's Day. I only mentioned Mothers Day once, and I said how much my mom hated the hypocrisy of Mothers Day, and that we should treat women right every day of the year, not give platitudes one day of the year. Why are women so disenchanted with motherhood when we value it so highly? Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). I dont envy you people who have been called togive talksnext week. Most detested thing, 3rd hour chatting and eating. Intent matters, and I dont believe the idealism we are fed is meant to hurt, but rather to uplift. However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. It is awkward for those who are NOT mothers and I don't think fathers get their due comparibly. Id like to see the swords beaten into plow shares this mothers day And for once ( just once) the SAHM vs working mom verbal cat claws retracted. I wish that EVERY ward had a FD talk on what unrighteousness dominion is, and why it should be the job of every priesthood holder and father to raise sons who understand it and daughters who wont stand for it. Then I served in a Branch with 90% women who had absent husbands and who also grew up with absent fathers. On this site you will find a variety of arrangements for ward choirs, solo piano, vocal duets and more. I didnt realize Mothers Day was so close. Geesh! My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. 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Up til now, I have endured going because I thought I had to. Also waiting by the library's tiny window with the Dutch door was a . Since I believe he (the Father) and my Heavenly Mother are probably equals, Id say we know a lot about her as well! Just plant a tree and name it after our mothers! . . rockpond I am 70 years old and have never been a mother, but I had one. Yes, the rhetoric has calmed down, but is certainly still present. It isnt uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. It hits pretty close because Im one of those lucky people who get to speak on Mothers Day this year. Somehow those who are not mothers are incapable of celebrating motherhood and thus it is painful for them and thus no one should celebrate motherhood as a church. Then the clincher, it is only for women to celebrate and they need to be left alone to celebrate it as they demand and see fit. Last year, I gave this talk. What does that say about us as a people? Are you looking for the best LDS talks on motherhood? Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. But in Argentina, where Mothers Day is in October, they also tended to recognize International Womens Day (March 8) even in church (in addition to a wide variety of other holidays Childrens Day, Grandparents Day, etc.). Your ward contains women at various stages of their lives, including some who dont have children and never will. I know I dont have any say on when the thread closes, but it would be interesting to hear feedback from how each persons respective wards handled MD, and how the people assigned to talk felt their messages were delivered and/or received. Uchtdorf. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that honors Motherhood while also keeping a focus on Christ. Bear in mind thatmost of women in the congregation havelives that havent turned out the way they expected. Never heard it, but I would love somethingalong the lines ofwhat we can learn from Christ and his time with women. more guilt and more controversy.). Mtg. In the garden He said, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death (Matthew 26:38). Every week they strive to prepare for that sacred ordinance with a broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3Nephi 9:20). At first I was wishing that I wasnt, but after thinking and praying about it for a few weeks and speaking with friends and family, Im rather excited about it. We were each handed full size chocolate bars that had been wrapped at the end of Sac Mtng. And I did use some of the suggestions here. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. Show me a sinless mother and she can be my ideal too. Last time I spoke on Mother's Day I was texting during my talk. Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! I am aware of a seminary/institute teacher who is apparently of the firm and unshakeable belief that a pile of pizza must be provided each week without fail. That feels a little thin still, so Im glad this post exists. When chocolate is handed out, our children end up begging for it but its the one day I wont share. I have been given mostly free reign on my message. I already have felt many of the concerns expressed, and approach this assignment with fear and trembling. Ive been jinxed. Nourishing their souls instead of feeding their bodies? I'd suggest that women at various stages in their lives speaking about what the joy in womanhood, being a divine daughter of God means to them in different stages of life, would at least eliminate all that talk and honor of mothers who have lots of children and do everything right that cause so much pain to women everywhere. Something else for me to kill.. The talks are mostly bearable (though no picnic), but the worst is when the youth would spread out in search of women who were not holding whatever flower or chocolate. While it addresses questions about how to raise a girl, the talk also discusses the nobility of fatherhood, the influence fathers have on children, how to cherish your wife, and why virtue is so important. Latter-day Saints in a contemporary congregation partake of the sacrament. You then leap to classifying it a family celebration rather than a national holiday. Gospel Q&A: I Feel Guilty That I Cant Fast Because of Medical Reasons. Maybe. Those who are solely focused on their own selfish desires? Wards/branches can use this app to create and print traditional . 2. https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/wanted-hands-and-hearts-to-hasten-the-work?lang=eng. Any suggestions as to what you would truly and realistically appreciate being presented? No fuss, no muss. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. He also addressed many different groups of women separately with distinct advice for their situation, including women with small children, older women, and women who never marry. I want to hear about the mother who lost all her children, because she made a lot of mistakes. At my ward the angel mothers were to aspire to. Its a complete set-up for failure. Why was she an ideal? More than at any time in the history of the world, we need mothers who know. Because I know the real story so it is distracting from the fake one that they are giving. Only for the second time he also included a segment about how if his wife was a better homemaker maybe his kids wouldnt have such screwed up lives. They really did. Mark, This post was positively Uchtdorfian! This is the same reason we do not have missionary farewells any longer. Fun Photos of Latter-day Saint Leaders in the Snow! He did not have any high-profile ward or stake calling at the time, not that it matters. Could someone remind of what the day is for after all? Another angle in this specific holidayhas been brewing for a while. Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. I think this is one of the most confusing topics for men in the church. I do look forward to handing the kids over to my husband for the day, but Ill take a pass on sacrament meeting. They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. Find another way to show appreciation to Mothers! If it is unique to us, I wonder why we have a corner on the Mothers Day anxiety market. when she becomes a God like I know she will she will be an inspriation to all ladys, The meeting isnt about me or you, or a missionary, or mother, its about the Savior and His atonement. Ere the sun goes down. #16 They asked him to speak again?! from Pres. Gods commands I must obey, I spoke about her one year. You dont come, you dont get one. The fathers dont seem to feel as guilty about things as the mothers do,,,. 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I would expect him to give a talk like that because he is so utterly black and white in his thinking and he never heard a strict utterance over the pulpit that he did not love. That cost a war pension. I miss her something terrible, and being at the grave-site really brought all of those emotions to the surface. Glad as I can be Its never the men. Which isnt necessarily a bad thing. I choose to stay away for most MDs and all FD. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? Crowd-sourcing request each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. What are we trying to create? Im finding actual motherhood so exhausting that I just cant bear to hear about angel mothers right now. Snickers. Since my husband gets to give The Spirits constant companionship is one of the greatest gifts of mortality. Please use the comments to make your own contributions. Speakers arent assigned to talk on mothers day, there is no gift, no refreshments, no day off from primary. My own dear mother, long since gone to her reward, summed up the essence of the perfect Mothers Day talk quite nicely. The best Mothers Day talk Ive ever heard was an illustration of this principle. 2 women spoke about motherhood. What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? Through this ordinance, Church members renew the covenants they made with God when they were baptized. LDS Mother's Day Gift Ideas: Great Gifts for LDS Women Mother's Day Cupcake Flower Card Mother's Day Gift Ideas: 10 Ways to Show Your Love on Mother's Day Mother's Day Chapstick Idea Mother's Day Questionnaire & Gift Idea Mother's Day Gift Idea: Candy Necklaces Mother's Day Treat Tags Mother's Day gift idea: Candy Flower Bouquets Categories Well give you an honest deal! This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). I have seen, heard and experienced much of the imperfections, joys and sorrows in life, and know that reaching out for and holding on to the Iron Rod brings souls closer to the ideals with every step. President Hinckley addressed all the women of the Church and thanked them for all the work they do in their families, congregations, and communities. Just pass out the chocolates and let all the women go to a park where buckets of KFC, potato salad and slaw are in abundance and/or veggie pizza and cheesecake. You can still give the women the day off. It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits our Father gave us.. The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mother's Day. Do other Christian women struggle with church-going on this day?